Let’s play catch-up

Every time I was hanging out with Mark, it seemed that I was having better time than the time before. My roommate was recently doing this exercise about past relationships, and asked me what I liked so much about him.

R: ok, well what does Mark like about you, do you think?

me: HA. my ass.  No for real, he thinks I’m smart. and clever. and I’m nice. and friendly. GAH these are so generic, maybe i will ask him

R: i know! you should

me: It’s funny that couples never seem to really talk about this stuff. no wonder people are insecure

R: YES that’s so true! i need to incorporate it in my next relationship.  what are some things you like about Mark?

me: he’s odd. and funny. and quirky in just the right way. and he’s down to earth, but confident and charming.  I feel like we can go to a fancy-pants night out or sit in our underwear and watch bad TV and he’s comfortable doing both. he’s very thoughtful and accommodating. and makes me feel wanted without making me feel smothered or uncomfortable

Rebekah: aww! those are really good things

me: I KNOW

On top of all that, our chemistry is everything I’ve ever wanted in a relationship. The sex is fantastic, and HE THINKS SO TOO.

After about a month of steady dates and great sex (I’d guess this was early April.  Let’s not talk about how it’s already mid-June), I decided that I wanted to have “the talk” where we would discuss our relationship. We always had fun together, but had never had deep serious discussions about ~life~ or our personal lives. I wasn’t really sure that I was ready for a boyfriend, but I knew I wanted to keep him around.

One night as I was driving him home I said,

“I don’t want to overwhelm you, but I think we should have that discussion about what all this is. you know, “THE RELATIONSHIP.”

“Right now? We’re almost at my place and it’s 11pm ..”

Although I did want to talk about it right then, I was anxious and so I grasped at the out he had just given me. “No, not right now. But I just wanted you to know that it’s on my mind and the conversation is coming.”

“Oh. ok. I should let you know that I have this thing, where it’s really important for someone to meet my family before we get into a steady relationship.”

“Oh. ok … “

“So maybe we’ll have to find a time to go up north and have dinner with my folks.”

“OH! yeah, ok. Yeah, I’d like that!”

And so I dropped him off and drove home with butterflies in my stomach.